I heard a quote on some commercial recently: "A beautiful woman honors herself by taking the time to look and feel her best every day." This got me thinking. (And gentlemen, this can apply to you too).
Note the use of the word "taking" in place of "making." This busy, chaotic world we live in has left us all struggling to make time - literally forcing us to over-schedule every last nanosecond of our day, barely leaving room for sleep. People (women in particular) are scheduling "me" time, scheduling date nights with their spouses, scheduling meals, scheduling sleep. The average "busy" person has little room left for spontaneity these days, let alone the things we actually need or want.
This quote is stuck in my mind because it applies to me and reminds me that I need to start reclaiming more of my own time. I often find myself waiting that extra week to do my nails when they already look terrible, or cutting corners from my beauty routine by not taking the time to give myself mini-facials once a week. I neglect doing my hair, usually just throwing it into a messy bun every day. Hell, I only even wear makeup on the weekends. But it's not just the exterior stuff either: there's the studying I put off, the organization, the phone calls...Working out makes me feel so much better too and I let myself fall into these phases where I work too late, often hours I'm not even getting paid for, and then I come home, cook, clean, and go to bed beating myself up for wasting my own precious time.
I think many of us (especially women) are afraid to take the time - we feel selfish, we feel guilty, and we hate the resounding feeling of failure when we neglect other more important things. Then when we find ourselves in a rut, struggling with self-image issues and wondering how it got "like this," dissatisfied with the way we look and feel and packing on the extra pounds, we wonder why. We have stopped taking the time we need to look and feel our best.
Translate that however you want - it could mean not going to the gym or exercising at home, not fitting in a walk before dinner, it could mean not getting enough sleep, it could mean delaying that massage or chiropractic adjustment you've been needing, it could mean forgetting how much you love yoga and failing to squeeze in even ten minutes from the cable exercise channel, it could mean not cooking healthier because it takes more time than heating up quick, frozen meals, it could mean holding off on buying that new outfit you need because there's barely room in your budget for groceries. I'm not saying ignore your priorities. But I am saying that looking and feeling your best are correlated, and we neglect ourselves more than anything else these days.
So the quote doesn't have to be about existing as a beautiful woman, I'd like to think it's about being a beautiful person. And not beautiful in the skin-deep, superficial, hair-and-makeup sense, but beautiful in the happy-and-healthy-from-the-inside-out sense. Start taking that time, because it's yours, and no one else is going to take it for you - they'll just take it from you.
Friday, May 31, 2013
Honor Thyself
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Discipline...and other topics
Discipline isn't something that comes easily to me. As a matter of fact, I am one of those people who works harder than most on a daily basis just to accomplish all the things that need to get done throughout my day (whether at work or at home). So at the end of it all, sometimes it's hard to find motivation to cross that one extra thing off my to-do list, or study when I'd rather relax in front of the tv at 9 pm (which is usually the first time I actually stop for the day), or get my butt to the gym.
But lately (roughly the past two weeks, haha) I've been more disciplined than ever before. I've been studying for a minimum of 2 hours a day, I've been dieting and exercising more, and I've been proactive about getting things done at home and just taking care of those little annoying tasks that never seem to stop accumulating. And it feels awesome! I feel like I'm on a roll. Even though there's really no time left for me or just to relax, I make my moments.
All these goals I'm setting for myself that seemed so far away now seem perfectly surmountable. That's not to say they won't be challenging, but I have bolstered my confidence by kick-starting myself and not allowing myself to make excuses for the things in my life that have kept their status-quo for far too long. They say "out with the old, in with the new," and I think I like the sound of that.
But I'm still human and not impervious to bad days and pessimism and things that make people want to procrastinate. I'm just going to have to strive, from now on, to power through those obstacles, dig deep, and remind myself how much better it feels to accomplish something and get a step closer to my goal than it feels to wallow or indulge for a short period of wasted time and then feel guilty.
As hokey as it might sound, in my life discipline breeds motivation, inspiration, optimism, and just an overall better feeling about myself and life. The "bad" things that sometimes get me down don't seem all that bad. The stupid little things that tick me off and make me feel irritated for the rest of the day, well, I don't give them as much power over my moods.
I do hate this test I'm studying for; I don't enjoy the subject matter or the process. I don't like feeling like the dumb kid in class and I don't much care for the endlessly excessive memorization. But I do like what the process is showing me. And I think I'll be a better person for it once it's finished. If I can remember that it's temporary, that I'm my own worst enemy and my only obstacle, and that once it's over I won't have to do it again but instead can sit back and reap the benefits, I think I can do it. Even if it takes me a couple more tries.
On a side note, I had some random thoughts on my walk to the office this morning:
1) I really hope Philadelphia capitalizes on its waterfront sometime soon. Penns Landing could be so much more than it is. Philly needs more to be proud of. Why can't we model our waterfront after that of, say, Baltimore's?
2) The phrase "pet peeve" is a pet peeve. Who on earth came up with that, anyway? Don't actually Google it and tell me, I don't care. I'm boycotting that phrase from now on.
Let me know if you agree with 1) or 2).
Time to hit the books! Bye friends!
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